Hiii Gorgeous RWs! 

The biggest, and I mean Biggest (yes, with a capital B) objection I get from clients is this: 

“I don’t have time.” 

And you’re probably sitting there, saying “yep, that’s it, that’s the issue– If only I had 26 hours in a day instead of 24, I’d be so much more productive/successful/happy” 

Well, let me tell you– having two more hours in the day would make absolutely ZERO difference to the time you think you don’t have.

I’m gonna let you in on a [not so] little secret…

There is nothing on your calendar, that you didn’t say yes to. 

One more time. 

There is nothing on your calendar, that you didn’t say yes to. 

Let that sink in. 

Now before you object and get all defensive let me be clear. This is not about making you feel bad for not getting stuff done. This is about helping you recognize what your are making a priority and what you are letting slide. 

I used to be that girl– running around trying to make everyone happy and get all the things done. I realized that not only was I burnt out and angry almost always, but I wasn’t giving my business or my self care enough attention. I was saying yes to things that I had zero desire to go to before I was saying yes to taking the time to shower. I said yes to a stag and doe for someone I didn’t even know, before saying yes to taking time to work on my business. Not. Good. I truly believed that if I could just have a few more hours in the day, that I would get everything I needed done and life would be great. But in reality, I would have filled those hours with more things for other people. I realized that I needed to make a change if I really wanted to get serious about my company and my life.

Now, the easiest way to get more time in your day is obviously to take things off your schedule– but what to cut? 

Here’s my simple rule: If it’s not a Hell YES– then it’s a Hell NO!

Meaning that if something comes up that is not directly going to enrich or benefit my life, I respectfully decline. 

For many of us, we would rather stick something sharp in our ear than turn someone down. Even if their request is outlandish or plain rude. We say ‘Yes’ even when our entire being is screaming ‘NO!!!!’ because we feel guilty even considering saying no to someone.  

But the fact of the matter is that if you want to get stuff done and move forward in your business and life – you have to take responsibility for your time and what you put on your calendar. From this moment forward, whatever you put on your calendar is there because you said yes to it.  

I won’t lie– at first, only putting things on my calendar that made me go ‘YAS’ was damn hard. I am a people pleaser by nature and so finally saying no to things that I didn’t want to do made feel icky. I felt like such a bitch the first time I said no that I immediately apologized and said yes. Oops. 

But I’ve learned that setting boundaries helps maintain your sanity. I’ve learned that people don’t get offended when you say no, and if they do, it’s their issue, not yours. And finally, I’ve learned that when you take responsibility for your time it makes it a whole lot easier to prioritize things that matter over things that don’t. 

I could talk about this topic for hours but I wanna know… How have you prioritized time in the past? Are you good at saying ‘no’? What mechanisms do you use to keep your boundaries in place for your and your family (if you have one)? Let me know in the comments!

XOXO

S

Xoxo

S